...I think we can all agree, baby otters are the cutest
I planned on writing about the prom.
I really did, but I'm putting it on hold because I cannot even believe that we are spending time worrying about who marries who when our nation has a slew, and I mean a slew, of other problems.
Stop the press.
Sure soldiers are dying, our national is debt is atrocious and people are eating people's faces off and murdering them and all that stuff, but, hold up, people who love each other who happen to be born with the same organs in their nether regions want to marry?
Let's waste months of the Supreme Court's time on something that should be a complete no-brainer.
Gay people should be able to get married just as actor Norman Reedus and I should be able to get married.
There. I said it.
Before you pick up the phone to call Sound Off to call me a liberal and quote the Bible, let me ask you these things:
How selfish are we?
Why should someone repress who they are and who they love because of something someone else believes in?
I have an allergy to gluten. It literally makes me sick to ingest anything containing it, but I'm not worried about someone else eating it around me or in front of me. Their actions aren't going to cause me physical pain. It's something I wouldn't do, but their choice to eat gluten because they were born without a sensitivity to it does not affect my inability to digest it or my life in any way.
It isn't going to change the way food works. Why in the world would I care or try to dictate what they put in their bodies? What kind of gall would that take on my behalf? (For the record, I don't even have any gall. I had my gall bladder removed years ago and that's where I kept my all my gall.)
Isn't marriage based on love?
In this country, they aren't generally arranged. People meet people they fancy, they fall in love and want to build a life together to enjoy the same happiness every human being should be entitled to. Please explain to me how it is possible to back an idea that encourages people to throw compassion out the window and demonize people for falling in love.
Love is all we have in the end. If faced with death, we would think of our family and the people in our lives who we love, not whether "Adam and Steve" walked down the aisle together. In the grand scheme of things it doesn't affect your life and you know it.
We are all born and we are all going to die. The love we have for each other and the good we do on this earth is all that really matters when you boil it down, so how is someone going to sit there and say, "Nah, that person doesn't love the kind of human being I think they should, so they should be denied the right to marry and celebrate their love. I'd rather they live in isolation, or better yet, just marry someone they don't love and live a lie. Yes. I'm comfortable with that. That sounds morally magnificent."
How intact is that whole sanctity thing?
Same-sex marriages aren't going to put the sanctity of marriage at any more risk for desanctification than those who are married and cheating do. And a lot of people are cheating. Trust me, they are cheating. I've worked in bars on the side for more than 10 years and, believe me, they are cheating. Some of them are even cheating with members of the same sex.
As a society, we've come to accept adultry as something that just "happens," but we put our foot down when two people who love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together want the same rights as a married man and woman.
Is your God the same guy I believe in?
The God I believe in does not hate. The God I believe in does not advise me to torture and ridicule people because they are different.
My God would never look at the suicide of a teenager due to unacceptance of the feelings they have toward persons of their own gender and tell me to encourage the ideals that made that child feel that way.
My God would want me to love everyone equally, no matter who they share a bed with or who they have eyes for, and leave the judging up to him.
Love is one of the purest emotions a human being can feel. What kind of God are you dealing with who promotes hate and anger as a product of faith instead of love? It doesn't hurt your marriage. It doesn't hurt my relationships. The hate that you are feeding into only hurts those people who you do not even know who are trying to live a life of happiness.
Can you not handle "the gays?"
Is it the feather boas on drag queens and limp wrists and lisped speech that have you all banged up? I've heard the argument a million times: "They don't have to be so flamboyant, running around in hot pants and saying, 'Fabulous!' all the time.
All gay people do that.
Just like all straight guys drive huge trucks they can barely crawl into, grunt and groan at the gym, smoke Marlboros and crush beer cans on their heads. Grow up if you honestly think that every gay person is the same.
Is it against God's plan?
Wow. It's one thing to be devoted to the guy, but to speak on his behalf? You must be real tight. You must have God on speed dial. A while back I upgraded my phone and I lost all my contacts, so do you mind texting me his contact information?
How on earth can you say with complete certainty what God wants?
How shellfish are we?
Please don't give me the argument that all these things are spelled out in the Bible. With all due respect to Catholicism (I did 13 years hard time of Catholic school, just so you know) Leviticus is packed with a whole bunch of crazy.
In addition to saying man shouldn't lie down with another man, Leviticus also says you can't touch a dead pig (no football for you!) and you can't eat shrimp ("But whatever is in the seas and in the rivers that does not have fins and scales among all the teeming life of the water, and among all the living creatures that are in the water, they are detestable things to you.")
It also says camel, rock badger, rabbit, eagle, vulture, buzzard, falcon, raven, crow, ostrich, owl, seagull, hawk, pelican, stork, heron, bat, winged insects that walk on four legs unless they have joints to jump with like grasshoppers, bear, mole, mouse, lizard, gecko, crocodile, chameleon and snail are out of the question for Sunday dinner as well.
Maybe we should consider that times change, we've grown as a society and perhaps, it's time to reexamine certain beliefs.
Am I going to burn in Hell for writing this?
If I take into consideration all the actions of which I was told I would burn in Hell because of- missing Mass, lying about drinking the last of the milk, not "finishing my letters" when I write in cursive - I should already be smoldering.
I know this area holds on to traditional values; I had grandparents at one time. Traditional values have deep value in society, no doubt, but there comes a time when even traditions are subject to change.
I know some people are afraid if they open their minds too far, they'll let all the heat out.
I get that.
I get that people think that gay people are evil and morally corrupt because their religion has ingrained that in them their entire lives. God has answered their prayers. They have sung his praise, and they wouldn't dare dream of going against the rules they believe he bestowed upon the world.
I'm not making this about religion.
Religion is just being in a posse with other people who feel the same way you do.
Think of this topic as if you are just a human being.
You don't have to like it. You don't have to support it. You don't have to change your Facebook photo to a red equal sign in defense of it.
Just have the decency to understand and accept the fact that as long as it's not hurting anyone, it is perfectly OK that someone live their life in complete contrast to yours.
Stop thinking about what they do in between the sheets; that has nothing to do with the topic at hand.
As human beings, we should all be allowed to equally experience and celebrate love for one another and build a family.
End of story.
*Baby otters have nothing to do with this article, but I thought, even if we disagree regarding this subject, in the end, we can at least agree baby otters are the cutest.
(Jenna Wasakoski, a News-Item editor, is a graduate of Von Lee School of Aesthetics and is certified as a professional makeup artist.)